My First YouTube Video: First Thoughts on Control

 bdsm, BDSM, control, my lusts, power, subbing, topping, values  No Responses »
Sep 082011
 

I just posted my first YouTube video! The title is “First Thoughts on Control – Recognizing Abuse and Encouraging Negotiation” and it’s aimed at people interested in control play in the bedroom. I do not think I have necessarily original thoughts on BDSM subjects, but I believe that every voice helps when it comes to encouraging safety and sanity, even in the context of for-pay BDSM over the phone. I have more a generic intro “Hello World” video that I should post first, but upon re-watching it, I need to add one significant thought to it before I post it, and I’ve already stalled on posting these long enough (I recorded it 10 days ago). So I pulled on my big girl panties and pretended [read more...]

Tell Me You Love Me

 love, lust, manipulation, what I want, words, writing  11 Responses »
Sep 062011
 
Tell Me You Love Me

I just realized, just this moment, that there is a phrase I utter in my fantasies, in my mind, all the time, that I can hear echoing in my head as the prelude to almost any self-arousal, and as an essential part of any masturbation, but I have never uttered it during phone sex: tell me you love me Late at night, when I start getting sleepy and snuggly, and I take a deep breath and listen to my body, those words echo through my mind before I know where they will lead, but they set the stage. tell me you love me I worry about being manipulative, even though I know sometimes I am, by the nature of the business. But I have lines [read more...]

In Celebration of the Male Submissive

 bdsm, BDSM, celebration, honesty, subbing, topping  8 Responses »
Sep 012011
 
In Celebration of the Male Submissive

I have been reading a conversation on the web about male submissives, which almost led to a blog post title of “Heartbreak and the Male Submissive” but I decided, instead, to celebrate, in addition to empathizing. It started with @maymaym (the guy behind the visual-celebration-of-male-submission site: http://malesubmissionart.com/) posting a link to this incredibly well-written piece discussing how often members of the BDSM scene devalue male submissives, even while valuing female dominants: http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/08/09/the-cost-of-devaluing-male-submission-one-token/ This particular conversation goes back further on the internet, but that’s where I joined it. Then tonight, maymay posted a related link, from KinkInExile, who had responded to Professor Chaos, with something equally well-written, about being a geek female dominant who breaks stereotypes and has a hard time finding a male submissive partner, [read more...]

Sugar Daddy Musings

 my lovers, my way, values, whore, whore vs slut  No Responses »
Jul 012011
 

In theory, developing an in-person relationship with a new lover with Sugar Daddy energy would be perfect for me. My husband and I are openly non-monogamous, he often travels for work, and I have bills to pay and love to share. So earlier this week, I found a few “dating” sites specifically designed for Sugar Daddies/Mommas to find Sugar Babies (also of both sexes – hooray for GLBTQ progress) and signed up for the two with the most interesting combination of features. After a brief flurry of activity, this letter arrived in my brain: Dear Galiana in 2011, Remember when you developed a fantastic long-distance BDSM relationship with a Dom over about six months, met him in person, it was awesome, then tried to quickly [read more...]

Lover Experience

 phone sex, pictures, words  2 Responses »
Feb 112011
 
Lover Experience

In the midst of sorting through my pictures from September’s photo shoot, I found one that I hadn’t focused on before, but now it’s my current favorite picture of myself: First of all, that babydoll has a bra strap around back, so dang, my boobs look amazingly perky for DDs (did I mention that I got fitted for a bra and found out that I’m a DD, not a D like I thought? Crazy.) Then the soft purple fabric, with the soft scarf-looking headband, and the flowing gypsy-ish earrings, and my flowing gypsy-ish wavy hair … all together, it’s a soft look physically. But the real attraction for me is my expression: I look as if I am enjoying the company of whoever I am [read more...]

Words, Lies, and Sighs

 lust, phone sex, role play  No Responses »
Jan 272011
 

“The words you choose, they way they tumble out of your mouth, I can feel them hitting me, and they feel like truth.” – a phone sex caller “Words are what we make up, but those sighs, those are the truth.” – another phone sex caller, a few days later Yes. Seriously, I have the best job in the world. Not only do I get paid to masturbate while relishing someone else’s sexual energy, usually several times per day, but also, in post-coital pillow talk, sometimes people say the most interesting things. (Physical + Mental + Emotional) * Stimulation = Win Oh yeah, I just turned something intensely sexy into algebra. Wow. I can’t decide whether to feel mortified or victorious. But back to the [read more...]

Dear Kink Academy: Pick Me!

 me giving advice, phone sex  No Responses »
Jan 202011
 

Dear Kink Academy, I learned about you today, and I am thrilled to have found you. And I want to be one of your Student Bloggers! I have been personally kinky for nine years, but my participation in the greater kink community tended to ebb and flow with the rhythm of other life commitments, similar to many amateur kinksters, I’m sure. Then in July 2010, I became a phone sex worker. And BAM! I’m now smack in the middle of the biggest kink-o-rama I could imagine! Although I started with a phone sex listing that was fairly simple (sex-positive, plus open to being submissive for BDSM play), I have gotten requests for: cross-dressing feminization humiliation erotic hypnosis cuckolding gang bangs bondage spanking cock-and-ball torture (CBT) [read more...]

I Love Fucking

 oral, phone sex, slut  2 Responses »
Jan 182011
 

I love fucking. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I also love complicated role plays where my mind is just as engaged as my body. And I love spicing up sexual energy with the delicious flavor of power exchange through domination or hypnosis. And yes, absolutely, I love enhancing the hormonal mix of sex by tossing in some adrenaline-boosting pain or struggling. But I feel like I’ve talked so much lately about my specializations that I’ve been neglecting to mention that I simply really. love. fucking. I love being slammed against a door to close it, before I’m even all the way inside, pinned against it, and finger-fucked to orgasm while I’m holding on to broad, strong shoulders. I love riding a man slowly, grinding [read more...]

The DADT of Phone Sex

 my way, phone sex, PSO issues  No Responses »
Jan 092011
 

DADT = Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. The military is phasing one out, but today’s blog post will be about the phone sex version. Or at least Galiana’s phone sex version. I don’t want to know if you regret calling me the moment after you climax. I won’t ask, and please don’t tell me. I like to pretend that all my callers have personal freedom to make sexual choices, and a personal entertainment budget, and when you can afford to call, and when “talking with Galiana” is at the top of the list of what sounds entertaining, you choose to spend your hard-earned money on a call with me, talking about whatever feels most entertaining to you, with no guilt involved. Let me be clear and [read more...]

Upsetting Trend

 honesty, issues, phone sex, PSO issues  No Responses »
Dec 292010
 

I’ve had five callers in the past few days do something really upsetting: I’ve been logged in, available for calls, and they’ve let me know they wanted to talk with me via email while I’ve been away from my computer. All five have ended up missing the chance to talk altogether. When I’m logged in to the system and available for calls, THAT RIGHT THEN is the perfect time to call me. It doesn’t matter if I’m away from my computer, I’ll still have the phone with me. If I’m helping with dinner, or bring the dogs inside from our muddy back yard, or sorting through paperwork, or reading a friend’s script draft, the phone is the best way to reach me, which is why [read more...]

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