Merry Christmas To Me

 boobs, flirting, lingerie, pictures, power, shoes, stockings, topping, toys  1 Response »
Dec 242011
 
Merry Christmas To Me

So in addition to getting connected to the party side of kinksters in the heartland (as I wrote about in my last post), I was smart enough to drop an introductory note to the community’s unofficial photographer: Sir Wallter (I’m not being sloppy, his name really has two Ls, and you can find him on Model Mayhem if you’re so inclined). Last night, we loaded two outfits, my travel toy bag, and a ridiculous volume of beauty products into the car to head over to Sir Wallter’s for a photo shoot. It went well. No, seriously, I mean, it went really really really well. Sir Wallter’s specialties are: (1) bondage rigging and photography (but alas, I ran out of energy before we got to that [read more...]

I’m Stuffed

 availability, control, honesty, issues, limits, me giving advice, my way, power, topping  No Responses »
Oct 182011
 
I'm Stuffed

Summary (extra-short): My stuff has arrived in my home, so I’m all stuffed up. Summary (medium-short): After 10 days of hearing nothing from our movers, we got a call Saturday saying they would hold our stuff hostage unless we paid them $800 more than the estimate. Sunday, after they arrived at 6:30 pm, we refused to pay it, called cops, had a 3-hour stand-off in our front yard, took video, measured the truck, I cried, and they eventually agreed to the $1600 originally estimated plus the $200 tip I had always intended to give them. Monday, they arrived at 11:30, took our money, then informed us they were in too big of a hurry to reassemble our furniture or put any furniture or boxes where [read more...]

My First YouTube Video: First Thoughts on Control

 bdsm, BDSM, control, my lusts, power, subbing, topping, values  No Responses »
Sep 082011
 

I just posted my first YouTube video! The title is “First Thoughts on Control – Recognizing Abuse and Encouraging Negotiation” and it’s aimed at people interested in control play in the bedroom. I do not think I have necessarily original thoughts on BDSM subjects, but I believe that every voice helps when it comes to encouraging safety and sanity, even in the context of for-pay BDSM over the phone. I have more a generic intro “Hello World” video that I should post first, but upon re-watching it, I need to add one significant thought to it before I post it, and I’ve already stalled on posting these long enough (I recorded it 10 days ago). So I pulled on my big girl panties and pretended [read more...]

Summer Fling

 love, power, subbing, whore, words  4 Responses »
Sep 042011
 
Summer Fling

I started my non-mainstream sexual explorations as a submissive, and have morphed into a switch-leaning-dominant. This week, I invested a tremendous amount of energy and passion in my femdom identity, defending and celebrating male submissives not only on my blog, but also on comments on other blogs that were apparently intelligent enough to be requoted. So what was the perhaps inevitable response of the universe to ensure my life remains in balance? I had one of the craziest, most intense whirlwinds ever with … wait for it … a new dominant male caller. Everyone who saw that coming, raise your hand. Hmmm, everybody, huh? In retrospect, the only surprise is that I was surprised. The day we met, he called me twice, for a total [read more...]

Video: Paralegal Humiliation and Blackmail

 control, financial, humiliation, lingerie, power, stockings, topping, video  No Responses »
Jul 272011
 
Video: Paralegal Humiliation and Blackmail

You’ve been a bad boy, haven’t you? First, you took credit for my work on the case, then you lied to me about your marital status, and last, but certainly not least, you are working with a seriously under-equipped little partner there in your pants, aren’t you? Tell you what, you just sit back and enjoy this video conference call where I do a strip tease for you on company time, and I’ll make sure and save it with no audio so HR and the senior partners can get a good long look at it, if you don’t give me what I’m demanding… I was in quite a mood when I shot this video, thinking of a caller who is a lawyer (and I used [read more...]

Tease and Long-Term Denial

 chastity, control, denial, orgasm, power, teasing, topping  No Responses »
Jul 052011
 

I have a caller who has gotten me interested in a concept with many facets and many names: one piece is male chastity / male orgasm denial / tease and denial; a second piece is sack tapping / ball torture; a third piece is small penis humiliation. Whew. It’s a lot to take in. Thankfully, he’s a patient teacher. In fact, our conversations would frequently seem theoretical to an outsider: we would seem like two people rationally and calmly discussing the merits of a man not having an orgasm for days on end… weeks on end… months on end… maybe never. And how testicles feel when stretched or pulled or flicked or punched when they are full. And how some women feel that men with [read more...]

Request for Listing Input

 gfe, hypno, me asking for help, my lovers, power, subbing, topping, variety, writing  2 Responses »
Apr 122011
 

I used to think that I did things in weird ways until I worked with dozens of programmers. Then I learned that most people do things in their own unique fashion, and that if you give them room to do things their way, often it will be most efficient for them. When I have a big, complicated project looming — like, for example, rewriting all my listings — I need to ponder it a while before I actually start making changes. I am currently in my mulling phase, which means I’m pleasantly distracting myself by importing my transaction detail into an Access database , and automating the process to parse customer name and transaction type. Inner Data Analyst: It’s about frikkin’ time! The Excel process [read more...]

Cartoon Pinup Galiana, Part III

 phone sex, pictures, power, subbing  No Responses »
Feb 242011
 
Cartoon Pinup Galiana, Part III

As I explained in the first Cartoon Pinup Galiana blog post (as well as The Second), a friend of mine asked a friend of his to do a cartoon pinup of me. In addition to the me-alone pinup, and the Mistress Galiana masterpiece, he also delivered this, much to the delight of my Inner Submissive: You can see the uncensored version here: http://psophotos.net/galianachance/cartoon/galiana04.jpg Are you serious? Every single detail of this is utterly dead. fucking. perfect. He’s dressed, but unzipped, while I am naked except for my collar and my restraints – the perfect symbols of surrender and control. His loose hand is in my hair, an as-of-yet unrealized threat that straightens my back in anticipation of the inevitable tightening. My grinning eyes, behind an [read more...]

Nina Hartley Nails It

 me giving advice, my lusts, phone sex, power  No Responses »
Dec 122010
 

I’ve been a fan of Nina Hartley since seeing “Nina Hartley’s Guide to Oral Sex” about ten years ago (it came out in 1994). I learned that men can eat pineapple and kiwi to make their cum taste sweeter (totally true), and I learned that one mental image of a woman’s sweet blue eyes absolutely lighting up as she dives enthusiastically onto a cock can stick with you forever in the best way. But now, I’m an even bigger fan, and also deeply impressed after reading an interview with Nina here, at the Beautiful Kind blog: http://thebeautifulkind.com/columns/fetish-parade/hosting-nina-hartley-community-interview Nina talks about whether porn is degrading to women, and she makes some excellent points, including some things I’ve thought, but haven’t yet put into words. Her foundational [read more...]

Becoming Mistress Galiana

 my way, phone sex, power, topping  No Responses »
Nov 282010
 

Today’s post brought to you by… I’m on the front page of Fetish -> Fem Dommes! And pleasantly shocked by that! Three months ago, I wrote a blog post about being an on-phone Mistress. A commenter wrote, “I can’t help but wonder if this Mistress Galiana isn’t closer to who you are becoming?” I replied: “I have about 4 more blog posts started to explore that very question, but the very short summary is: I’ve always been a social and professional switch (can bottom or top as needed), but never figured out how to translate it to the bedroom before now. I’m looking forward to continuing to explore it. I know I’ll never be just a Mistress. I know I’ll always be a switch. I [read more...]

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