The Awesome Island of Misfit Toys

 honesty, issues, kinkster, safety  No Responses »
Mar 302013
 

Written for friends on FetLife, where it made it to “Kinky & Popluar”, which meant a lot of people read it and commented and clicked “love” for it. It started some cool conversations. It was fun. —– At a public kinkster event yesterday, I had a thoughtful conversation with a couple of people about their social anxieties, and found out later that two people had chosen to leave the event due to anxieties. Each person’s circumstances and triggers and other contributing factors were different, of course, but I’ve been mulling, so I thought I’d write. Indulge me for a moment, and mentally roll the issue of kinkster gatherings and social anxieties WAY back in time to the moment when any of these people admitted to [read more...]

Moving Right Along, Again

 availability, honesty, issues, safety  2 Responses »
Aug 252011
 
Moving Right Along, Again

Hey, long-time blog readers, remember this blog post from mid-February called “Moving Right Along“? How I announced I was moving, but I said I’d be up and running again in a few weeks, so no worries? And then, as it turned out, everything went to hell in a handbasket and it actually took me like … four or five months to really get my groove back? Well, hey, guess what I found out today? Those of you playing along at home who guessed, “Ohhhhhhh noooooo you have to move again?” are absolutely correct! You get a gold star! But this time, the circumstances are better. By far. Here’s how it went: Hubby’s Job: (in a secret rural Midwestern location) Turns out, you’re awesome, and we [read more...]

Safe Check In

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Jun 272011
 

I’ve registered at Safe Check In (http://www.safecheckin.com), a site that is providing a service I had imagined a few years ago (but of course never built, and now someone else is making money off the idea instead of me… good for them for not being lazy like I am). The concept is that I give them information about me which would be helpful if I needed to be investigated as missing, including a recent picture, the make/model/color/plates of my car, and contact information for my husband and mom and sister. Then, each time I leave the house, I check out with specific details for the outing: what I’m wearing, the route I expect to take, and who I am meeting. If I do not check [read more...]