That Went Well

 celebration, kinkster, my lusts  2 Responses »
Jul 252012
 
That Went Well

I’ve built successful communities before: at church, at work, in online gaming, and socially. And I’ve organized group meetings and get-togethers all those places, too. So I had a high level of confidence that hosting my first kinkster community event would be a success… Until about 2 hours beforehand, at which time waves of doubt crashed over me. What if the discussion format bombed? What if nobody shows? What if the food is terrible? When I first organized the event, I was expecting 15 but secretly hoping for 20 just to feel badass. I got 38. That’s right, thirty-eight people showed up to mingle, listen to me give announcements about upcoming community events, and participate in the discussion groups (which were widely referred to as [read more...]

Play Party Eye Candy

 funny stories, lingerie, my lusts, self-amusement  2 Responses »
Jul 112012
 
Play Party Eye Candy

Against all odds, and perhaps also against all better judgment, I went to a play party this weekend. I wasn’t in great shape after the traveling, but I made it. The host lives in a collegiate part of town where noise ordinances are unlikely to be enforced, and neighbors are more likely to peep than report if there are nekkid people in an inflatable “hot tub” in the back yard. So I wander in the back yard, and there are five topless women and three appreciative men in the inflatable “hot tub” (water heated by the scorching outdooor temps and refilled by garden hose), and I was easily coerced to join. The woman next to me, who I’ve groped and smacked and licked several times [read more...]

Hotel Layover

 funny stories, my lusts  2 Responses »
Jul 082012
 
Hotel Layover

A weather situation in Chicago caused me to miss the last flight of the day home, so although my dear husband offered to make the drive to pick me up, we agreed it would be easier on everyone if I just did the “distressed traveler rate” at the hotel for the evening. The Hyatt Regency O’Hare felt posh to me, although I couldn’t tell if the decor was retro-chic or actually 1970s, because I suck at decorating, but I immediately thought, “I have to do a robot shoot here some day.” The combination of ultra-modern silver and chrome with wood-like wall paneling and dark patterned carpet made me want to squeeze into a silver bodysuit with big marked squares on my tummy and stand in [read more...]

Smooch Slut

 attention whore, flirting, kissing, my lovers, my lusts  1 Response »
Jun 222012
 
Smooch Slut

I love kissing. I love it a lot. It’s so intimate, so easy to slide into a place of wanting this moment to last forever. The taste, the scents, the touch. Feeling someone respond to the slightest of movements, matching pressure, exploring. And when it’s someone new, it’s a huge rush to initiate sexual contact for the first time. I’m pretty sure I can tell whether or not I’d enjoy having sex with someone based on three minutes or less of kissing. And I’m irrationally happy for a couple of days after I kiss someone new. I’m a bit of a smooch slut. The day I left for college, I’d kissed 36 people (and by kissing I mean making out long enough to have a [read more...]

The Hand Orgy

 attention whore, bdsm, BDSM, bondage, celebration, my lusts  3 Responses »
Jan 312012
 
The Hand Orgy

January 23 kicked off the Chinese New Year of the Dragon. I ran across this handy explanation: “Exciting, unpredictable, exhilarating and intense, according to the Chinese tradition, these are the characteristics of the Year of the Dragon. Be warned, following the Rabbit’s year of cautious optimism, the Dragon is renowned for its unbridled enthusiasm and has been known to throw caution to the wind! Now’s the time to make this your Year of Adventure!” Well, thank you – I think I will! Warning: the next picture is even more Not-Safe-For-Work (NSFW) than the first picture. I’m giving you space to look away, although I sincerely hope you don’t, because it’s good for me when you have sexy images of me stuck in your head. I [read more...]

My First YouTube Video: First Thoughts on Control

 bdsm, BDSM, control, my lusts, power, subbing, topping, values  No Responses »
Sep 082011
 

I just posted my first YouTube video! The title is “First Thoughts on Control – Recognizing Abuse and Encouraging Negotiation” and it’s aimed at people interested in control play in the bedroom. I do not think I have necessarily original thoughts on BDSM subjects, but I believe that every voice helps when it comes to encouraging safety and sanity, even in the context of for-pay BDSM over the phone. I have more a generic intro “Hello World” video that I should post first, but upon re-watching it, I need to add one significant thought to it before I post it, and I’ve already stalled on posting these long enough (I recorded it 10 days ago). So I pulled on my big girl panties and pretended [read more...]

In My Dreams

 my lusts  No Responses »
Aug 092011
 
In My Dreams

I had a dream the other night that I was with a lover. He was helping me take pictures of myself, and we were theoretically not going to be having sex. But he was naked. We were smiling, he was shooting pictures, we were enjoying each others’ company. It was relaxing and fun. I took the camera to assist with a Point-Of-View shot including his cock, raised it above my head, so I could see us from above, and he nestled in behind me. The instant the head of his cock brushed against the skin of my ass, we both knew we needed to be fucking. I reached for him, imagining him sliding into me, pressed him against me… and woke up. Dammit. Help me [read more...]

A Year and A Fortnight

 celebration, inner cast, issues, my lusts, vertigo  No Responses »
Aug 022011
 
A Year and A Fortnight

I started taking phone sex calls July 15, 2010, a few days after my husband took this picture of me in our kitchen to test the camera on his new phone. I hadn’t yet started writing my first version of my listing, because I didn’t yet know about NiteFlirt, but I had applied with a couple of dispatch phone sex services. I wrote blog posts about my quarter anniversary and my six-month anniversary. Then on July 15, 2011, I completely forgot to write about my 1-year anniversary. When I realized it, two very socially busy days later, I figured I’d wait until my blog anniversary (8/15) and do something then. On July 24, 2011, I got an email, with the subject line, “No?” and content [read more...]

Variety Fetish

 honesty, my lusts, phone sex, words  1 Response »
Feb 082011
 

I have finally realized what my fetish is: variety. The definition of having a fetish that makes the most sense to me is: sexual stimulation which you require in order to achieve sexual satisfaction. The definition of having a kink that makes the most sense to me is: sexual stimulation that is unusual or non-mainstream which you enjoy. By those definitions, I don’t have a fetish for any particular activity, because the activities of any one sexual encounter may be completely different than the activities of another sexual encounter, and I can find both encounters thoroughly satisfying. But here’s what I could never find satisfying: the same encounter, with the same partner, over and over, with nothing else in the mix. And really, I need [read more...]

Follow-Up to Follow-Ups

 manipulation, my lusts, my way, phone sex  No Responses »
Jan 152011
 

After writing this Openly Manipulative blog post about how I use follow-up notes to entice callers, I finally managed to get through them yesterday. Last night, I got a late-night call from a role-play enthusiast who normally sets up “Oh gosh, we shouldn’t but… maybe… just this once…” kinds of fantasies with me. A little raunchy, a little rough, and always fun. No set-up last night. He had been to a stag party, and had been drinking heavily. When he came home, he saw I’d sent him a follow-up email and went to check it. In his words: “I had whiskey dick in the worst way until I saw your gorgeous self, your head leaning back off the bed, with that dildo about to slide [read more...]

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