The Awesome Island of Misfit Toys

 honesty, issues, kinkster, safety  No Responses »
Mar 302013
 

Written for friends on FetLife, where it made it to “Kinky & Popluar”, which meant a lot of people read it and commented and clicked “love” for it. It started some cool conversations. It was fun. —– At a public kinkster event yesterday, I had a thoughtful conversation with a couple of people about their social anxieties, and found out later that two people had chosen to leave the event due to anxieties. Each person’s circumstances and triggers and other contributing factors were different, of course, but I’ve been mulling, so I thought I’d write. Indulge me for a moment, and mentally roll the issue of kinkster gatherings and social anxieties WAY back in time to the moment when any of these people admitted to [read more...]

This Crazy Birthday

 birthday, celebration, gifts, issues, vertigo, words  1 Response »
Sep 112012
 

I wrote this for a few friends, but thought I’d share it with you too. I’m turning 42 on September 18. It’s going to be awesome because that means I’ll be The Answer for a year (geek reference here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phrases_from_The_Hitchhiker%27s_Guide_to_the_Galaxy#Answer_to_the_Ultimate_Question_of_Life.2C_the_Universe.2C_and_Everything_.2842.29 ). And any year that you’re The Answer to the Ultimate Question has to be a great year. So, that’ll rock. But … I was born on my father’s 28th birthday, so he would have been turning 70, if he were still alive. I grew up thinking of it as “our birthday”, but this will my 20th birthday I’ve celebrated without him since the heart attack that took him at age 50. So. That’ll suck. And on Sept 24, I have a settlement hearing for [read more...]

Writing While Pondering

 availability, bondage, honesty, issues, me asking for help, my way, PSO issues  3 Responses »
Jun 052012
 
Writing While Pondering

(Warning: this blog post contains irrational capitalization and emphasis, because apparently that’s What Needs to Happen Today as if my thoughts are the titles of published articles, or as if I were writing in the 19th century. I assume the urge for caps case will fade, but apparently I couldn’t write today without it.) I’ve been traveling for two weeks (decadent of me… the last hurrah from my windfalls from March), visiting family in Houston (which was comforting and nourishing as always), and seeing a friend in a show in Chicago (I am ashamed that I only seem to support the arts when I know participants, but I guess it’s better than never supporting the arts). It was an absurd amount of travel for someone [read more...]

Bunny Hop Recovery

 availability, disability, honesty, issues  2 Responses »
May 082012
 
Bunny Hop Recovery

I seriously injured my back about 2 months ago now, and my recovery has been a bunny hop: two hops forward, one hop back. I knew I was ready to write a blog post again finally when the thought of putting on pink lipstick and my roommate’s bunny ears for a picture didn’t confuse or overwhelm me. (For the record, my roomie is RIDICULOUSLY cute in the bunny ears with her matching pink hair.) To make a long story as short as I’m capable of (not very), I’ve been having rolling compensation re-injuries climbing steadily up my back. The first injury was basically compression in my tailbone, so I compensated by shifting pressure up a few vertebrae, which then injured them, but not quite as [read more...]

Not That Kind of GFE

 availability, disability, honesty, issues, limits  6 Responses »
Mar 282012
 
Not That Kind of GFE

The grand experiment was: see if I can successfully travel to meet an out-of-town lover for a multi-day romp, with some resting time built in. The first five days were a smashing success: I rested up after traveling, then we romped to our hearts’ delights in a sunny, warm, cozy place with every creature comfort I could have asked for. I got gussied up with straight hair and red red lips for our first sexy day: He likes me in just a bra and panties. And then I played the part of the good mistress and put on my maybe-we’re-just-colleagues outfit for scrumptious dining out about town (his wife knows about me – I’m more of an extra in their open marriage than a mistress, [read more...]

Still Alive

 availability, honesty, issues, limits  6 Responses »
Mar 102012
 
Still Alive

I apologize for worrying so many of you by not writing. The crazy stuff: while I was in Houston in February, I tweaked my back, so I spent most of February trying to avoid sitting (lying down and standing and kneeling are fine, and fucking made it feel better, it was just sitting). Every time I tried to write a blog post from my phone, or sit at the computer long enough, something would interrupt, or I’d find myself staring blankly at the screen. I have no good excuse for my blog absence, really, other than “that’s the way this season’s insanity played out”. The fun stuff: Just yesterday, I got my first installment of my Social Security settlement from back in October, which will [read more...]

But I Want Something

 celebration, honesty, issues, limits, me giving advice, my way  8 Responses »
Feb 102012
 

“How can you know what you want ’til you get what you want and you see if you like it?” Cinderella, Into the Woods “Human beings are not naturally wired to handle celebrity well – why would we evolve to deal with a million people caring about every detail of our lives when only so few of us have that problem?” – me, random musings “For the first time in my life, I can pay unexpected bills when they come in and not have to sacrifice paying something else. It’s as if Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs were magic: now I have the creative energy to write the stories that have been banging around in my head for a decade” -my ex-roommate, who recently finished the [read more...]

Family Visit

 availability, issues  No Responses »
Feb 012012
 

My mother-in-law is having minor heart surgery Friday (although “heart surgery” never feels “minor” does it?), so we’re going to Houston tomorrow (Thursday Feb 2). My husband will be back Sunday Feb 5 to work next week, but I’m taking the opportunity to spend an extra week with my family, so I won’t return home until Monday Feb 13th. I have no idea what this does to my work availability. I think I might log on during the days the week of Feb 6 while my mother’s at work, and possibly an evening or two if the gang is all busy, but it’s impossible to predict with any accuracy. However, stranger things have certainly happened than me arranging phone sex calls while traveling to visit [read more...]

Thoughts from an Energy Rebound

 blog meta, celebration, daily, honesty, issues, limits, phone sex operator  3 Responses »
Dec 112011
 
Thoughts from an Energy Rebound

Sometimes life throws you a curve ball, like when your old standby allergy medicines apparently interact with your vertigo medicines and you find yourself confused all the time and sleeping 14 hours in a row. And then sometimes, life lobs you a softie, like when you follow your intuition on how to switch up your allergy treatments and find yourself fully energized again with wildly raging lust, having to practically pin your hands at your sides not to start masturbating from the moment you wake up. I think maybe my favorite days are ones where I finally have that burst of ability again after a time of feeling limited. When the question, “Is this going to last forever?” is answered with a resounding “No, you [read more...]

Spoke Too Soon

 availability, issues  No Responses »
Dec 022011
 

Now, in addition to being married to the funniest guy I know, I sound like Jessica Rabbit. A 2-hour appointment yesterday wrecked my voice, in kind of a sultry way. I probably won’t log in for public access, but if Galiana-as-Kathleen-Turner is your thing, write me for an appointment!!

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